Death to pity parties!

It's only fitting even if cheesy that my first blog post be directly related to the name of the blog :-)

I created this blog to share MY views and track my ongoing progress and evolution. I've learned so much over the past year/s and decided I had to start writing it down (online) for myself and hopefully even one other person's benefit.

The whole topic of a "pity party" was especially dear to me since I was once the reigning queen of either hosting them or being everyone's favourite guest of honour (sad but true). Self empowerment was a foreign concept to me as I was more comfortable blaming others and being a cry baby than fully accepting responsibility for myself. However the year 2013 was the year I stopped throwing those parties and stopped accepting invitations to them. It has been a wildly painful and uncomfortable experience but it has been totally worth it!  

I have found that when you make certain decisions in your life God will provide the circumstances to facilitate your growth and things will align. Since growing is a lifelong process, I have fully embraced the fact that I will not ever know everything at any point and that the journey is most important. Since my decision to focus on life giving thoughts and words, there simply has not been anymore room for my famous "parties". I remember when I came to the realisation for MYSELF that my words are powerful stuff especially since God creates using His words and emphasises the power of the word. It was like a light went off in my head. I was stuck where I was because that was all I ever spoke about. Using many resources the Bible, following many awesome people on twitter who provided daily inspiration, watching Iyanla Fix My Life, the OWN network and reading any inspirational literature I could get my hands on and my best friend telling me 
to wake the hell up have been key in my journey. 

The conversations I took part in just started changing, the few persons I chose to speak to regularly were exchanges of words of motivation and hope beyond our circumstances at the time. A whole new horizon of possibilities opened up for me and I was happier than I have ever been in my life. 

Ultimately accepting responsibility for my mind, thoughts and choices made all the difference and I started speaking of the life and ME I wanted and the impossible suddenly seemed possible. I no longer had to feel sorry for myself, that did absolutely nothing for me. I stopped making others responsible for my happiness. I realised I could just be me, fully embrace me and most of all I could be happy. I am happy. I am grateful. I am living, loving and growing.